Written by: Natasha James, Project Planning & Delivery Coordinator, SilverBirch Hotels & Resorts
Welcome readers! Well…we made it through the holiday season. Possibly a couple pounds heavier, but hopefully wearing a smile from memories created with loved ones. Perhaps glowing from romance and a proposal?? January is often a time to “get back on track”, set goals and…plan a wedding! As I just happen to be planning my own wedding, I’d like to share some heartfelt tips from me to you.
Live in the moment
Recently over celebratory drinks, two very wise women spoke about the importance of appreciating and enjoying this significant time in my life. It’s exciting and romantic. Take the time to celebrate with family and friends. Share your story. This is a once in a lifetime experience, and the memories created can last a lifetime. Be present and savour each and every moment.
Without question, your partner. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Be patient, kind and willing to compromise. Understand what part of the wedding planning is truly important to your partner. And have fun together with hobbies and interests other than wedding planning!
The importance of decision making
In the words of Steve Jobs, “Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do“.
Following are points and thoughts to consider:
- What traditional must-haves are important, or not? I’ve decided to opt out of a traditional ceremony and plan a small ceremony at home. This removed the need for an additional venue booking and rehearsal dinner. My bank account thanked me.
- Create a list of vendors to hire. What are your passions? Love to dance? Me too! I’ll be hiring a DJ for the reception. I’ve started a dance playlist and will also ask guests for their favourite songs…guilty pleasures preferred. Gotta love the 90’s classic Finally by CeCe Peniston. I can already picture the awesome finger jabs and leg kicks.
- Create a list of details you, your partner or those closest to you can handle. Channel your creativity. Consider hand written invitations or place cards. Centrepieces can be made and guests will love to take your personal creation home.
- Allow ample time to plan. This will reduce stress and make it easier to live in the moment.
Checklists, spreadsheets and follow ups will be required to stay organized. I’ve ordered and shaded my attendee list in excel to streamline the invite and seating arrangement process. Perhaps meet with key family and friends for dinner monthly to discuss questions, ideas and progress. Accept or request help from people you trust. I’ll solicit my Grandmother (aka baker extraordinaire) to create my wedding cake.
Location, location, location
Once you’ve made important decisions, established a budget and rough attendee list, the next step is to find the perfect location. A destination wedding can be a great choice as it’s a holiday for all, and more time can be spent with loved ones and new friends. A wedding close to home also has many benefits; nostalgia fills the air and travel can be easier on family. Or enlist the help of SilverBirch! Many of our hotels offer fantastic wedding packages. For a full list of our properties, click here.
In Project Management, this is an important deliverable at the end of a project. In life, this can also prove to be very helpful. Ask family and friends for lessons learnt regarding their wedding – either what went well, or what didn’t. I recently asked a friend for one decision she was happy about. She hired a videographer (who was close to being cut out of her budget) and said it was one of the best decisions she made. She can re-live her special day by seeing AND hearing the people closest to her; in particular, her Father’s speech. Priceless.
From the heart
Have a beautiful wedding day and more importantly, a beautiful marriage!